By Being Grateful
Firstly, to be be able to wake up to a new day is a gift, so I look at growing older as a gift, the gift of life. I’m embracing it to the max with gratitude to God.
One thing that has crossed my mind often in recent years is how fortunate I am to have the freedom to believe in God because there are people all over the world who don’t have the freedom to worship.
I can not imagine a life without God. God is everything to me, the foundation of my being, my all. To the Almighty, I say thank you, thank you that I was born into a Christian household, thank you that I was born to parents who didn’t force religion on me, thank you for making a way for me to know you, to recognise that I am your child and that you love me. Thank you for loving me despite my imperfections. Thank you for your mercy and your grace upon my life.
For my family
For my husband and best friend. The man I call “sweetie!” despite the fact that he finds it irritating, “Joe Bouncer” because he literarily bounces everywhere, “David Bond” because in a suit he looks better than the real Bond and “my superhero” because I can depend on him for anything. Okay, maybe not anything, there are some things that I know better not to bring his way.
For my 21 year old son, who turns his head away when I take pictures and won’t like being in this blog, so no pics with his face showing. I am grateful for the young man he has become. I’m going to respect his wish not to be spoken about and stop here.
For my 15 yr old daughter Abisola, who I call “a pain in my ass” (because I have to drop her off at tennis lessons) but is really a good child, who has never given us any cause for concern. She won’t mind being in this blog.
For my parents and siblings.
I am grateful that my parents are aged, alive and well. That my siblings and their family’s are all alive and doing well.
For my friends
I am grateful for friends who have encouraged and supported me over the years. Friends who have given me valuable feedback over the years.
By Being Me
I describe my style as natural, minimalist with occasional splashes of bling. I’m more focused of the state of my body on the inside than the way it looks on the outside, because if my insides are taken care of, it shows on the outside. I also believe that when your body is well conditioned, you don’t have to think too much about dressing up. I don’t paint my finger nails, I use very minimal makeup, I stopped wearing lipstick years ago, opting for lip glosses and tinted lip balms instead. My hair has been natural for years and my preferred style is braids with splashes of colour. I braid my hair because as I’ve grown older, I lean towards anything that is very low maintenance. It’s a get up and go look.
I have a slightly reserved personality. I protect my peace of mind. Though I’m honest, straight talking and fun loving without pretence, my speech is a lot more measured now than it was 10 years ago. I avoid getting into contentious situations with friends, choosing not to engage in petty squabbles because at the age of 49, I can’t be giving such my precious time. Life is too damn short.
Last night I was trying to articulate to my husband how I felt physically, but he took the words out of my mouth – I feel like a 30yr old. I believe in the power of the mind. I believe that age is just a state of mind and that you are as old as your mind says you are. I do not want to reverse my years, I am grateful for every year but…. I do not dwell on my age – it’s just a number. I just LIVE. l channel my energy into living a full life. A joyful life. A vibrant life. A life full of vitality. A life of purpose. I do what is in my power to keep my mind and body in good working condition and leave the rest to God.
I believe that happiness is a choice no matter the situation. Yes, there are situations and circumstances that are so dark that it’s difficult for us to find that happy place. The power of the creator is such that, even in our darkest moments, we can see light. It might take time, but God’s light comes.
So here’s my birthday message to myself, Kehinde keep striving to live a life that would be pleasing to the Almighty. #LoveLaughLive